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Ensure that you have your own money for your retirement days. Furthermore, that you have a good life insurance plan plus a hospital card.

Cheers!

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Hope everything will turn out well.. Good luck sis!

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Her other sis in Malaysia will also help their little sis so it would make it easier for all of us to send their bunso in college. We agreed to send money on alternate-month-basis and the baon would be i guess with their parents.

There is this thing in the Philippines, part of our cultural traits, to have the elder child support the education of younger siblings, who in turn will support even younger siblings. That’s what your husband’s parents must be brought up on.

In part, especially if they are old and on medication, is because they can no longer afford it and would require support from those already with jobs. Or, if they are tired and would want to get something for themselves before the pass away.

The modern thinking is your’s first, other’s later. It’s their obligation to pay for the education of all children they brought into this world, not mine. This view is definitely from the perspective of the one being asked for support. But the parents view is that they sacrificed their entire lives, “can you please help us out here”?

The thing calls for a little sacrifice on your part, reducing your amusement expenses, eating out, purchases of lifestyle trimmings ( gadgets, cell phones, etc.) which they probably feel is ostentatious, and “you must be making plenty, so help us with your sister”.

It’s a difficult balancing act, but being honest and open would help - yet you will still have to share some amount. Tell them about your desire to help, but tell them your limitations. Perhaps part of the tuition, and a small allowance, books and lab experiments are too heavy and it will affect your own daughter’s needs. Maybe you can tell them you’d need to borrow money for the tuition as you have saved only for your daughters needs, since income is not that much nor regular. This would reduce the expected burden. But never let on that you refuse or dislike to provide something.

Once you’ve come across with the amount, make the monthly allowance weekly or even have it in small denominations, to let them see that it’s a big sacrifice. Come to their place bringing the meager dinner you intend to cook for your family. Share them some of the longganisa if need be, just so long as they see you are sacrificing and are not irritated about it. This trait may be so ingrained in them that it would be difficult to remove soon. Make sure you communicate in a subtle way and over time that this method is getting less and less viable.

Good Luck. –Durano, done!

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btw, binibigyan ko lang parents ko ng pera kapag pasok pa sa budget ko.. Kahit di pa ako kasal.. kasi wala naman silang work kaya dapat bigyan… hehehe. not necessary naman na if kasal ka dapat bigyan mo.. it’s not ur obligation, it’s simply gratitude from you for them that’s why ur sharing what u have.. pero hindi mo responsibilidad yun…

pero pag sa tingin mo di kaya ng budget pag bibigyan mo pa sila.. ipon ka muna para sayo at sa family u.. dapat talaga unahin u ang sarili u and ur family before others… first things first ika nga….

just my 1.5 cents.. ^__^

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