joanjoyce

What is your insights on giving money to parents when you are already married? I am happy that my father provides everything for us even if I am now married but my in-laws do otherwise and even made my husband pay for her little sister’s nursing tuition fee even if we do not have a regular income.

This is one thing that confuses me all the time and giving me anxieties at night. Isn’t it that the children are the parents responsibility? I raise my kid not asking my father for a tuition fee but out of our own earnings because i think thats the right thing to do it.

But when your parents are still strong and working and you know that has a lot of money, why pass the responsibility of making your daughter go to school to his brother? It’s not that I am selfish or what but we are not that rich nor stable as to we can afford to send one kid to a nursing school. We know how expensive it is, right?

As a mother my first priority is my kid over somebody else’s kid but my husband thinks otherwise. He also wants to send her sister to school even if we cannot afford it for he said “maybe” she can help us on my daughter’s schooling when she graduated. Maybe? it only means he is not even sure about it.

I am really confused about this matter, I am worried about my daughter’s needs if our monthly earnings will be halved just by sending her sis to college. I want her sis to finished college, I am happy if she will but how about my daughter? I want to help but only up to what we can and not to what they want it to be. I hope they realized that we also have money problems and we also have expenses.

I am really confused, I don’t know if my thinking is bad or what but all I want is for my kid’s security. As the bible says..

Behold, a third time I am ready to come to you. And I will not burden you, for I do not seek your things, but you. For the children ought not to lay up treasure for the parents, but the parents for the children. 2Cor 12:14

I am a mother and I only want what’s best for my kid.